Peace and Blessings, Abundant Souls!
If you want to know how to change your life, the first step is becoming aware. You can’t evolve if you don’t realize that you’re stuck or not moving forward in life. Everything starts with the awareness or realization of what’s going on.
Welcome to another episode of the Abundantly Ever After Show with Jovhannah Tisdale. Today we are talking about living Abundantly Ever After.
Oftentimes you’ll hear me say, living Abundantly Ever After pain and trauma, but I just wanted to like expound upon what that means and what that can look like in your life.
So for me personally when I talk about living Abundantly Ever After, of course, there’s like more than one thing that I’ve had to overcome in my life. One of the main things was dealing with domestic violence, which as a result impacted me emotionally and mentally as well as in other ways.
And so I had to live Abundantly Ever After the pain and trauma of abuse. After dealing with depression and anxiety, PTSD. Really rebuilding my life, rediscovering who I am, and allowing myself to step out of that identity.
Living Abundantly Ever After, I mentioned in the first episode, can look different for each and every one of us because the things that we want out of life, what we’re here to do and experience, it’s all going to be different.
What my Abundantly Ever After might look like could be completely different from what you’re Abundantly Ever After looks like, yet it brings us the joy, the satisfaction, the positive feelings, and experiences that we both want.
That’s one of the things I think it’s important, so me like as a coach and a healer. My job is to help you get where you want to be, not get where I want you to be or I think you should be, or that someone else thinks you should be.
Oftentimes a lot of people don’t even realize, when they come to me, they don’t know what they want. Because they’ve never stopped and asked themselves. No one has ever asked them or they just never thought that they could have anything outside of their current experience or what they’ve always known in their life.
And so that’s something that I absolutely want to change. And in fact, one of the very first things that I share when someone reaches out to me and they’re like “I don’t know what to do”.
Well, you need to figure out what it is that you want. And if you don’t know what you want, then I cannot truly help you until you figure that out.
Otherwise, you’ll make progress and you’ll be doing things that benefit you, but you won’t necessarily see growth and transformation in the way that it could take place, so I always ask you to get clear on what it is that you want to experience.
So if you know you don’t like your life as it is.
If you know you don’t like the neighborhood that you live in.
If you know you don’t like the people that you have to deal with on a daily basis at your job.
If you know that you aren’t happy and the types of friendships or relationships that you’ve had, that’s a starting point and it’s really interesting because a lot of times people can tell you what they don’t like or don’t want, but they cannot tell you what it is that they want.
I want you to take a second and think about that.
Do you know what it is that you want?
Do you have a clear picture in your mind of what you want your life to be like?
Three months from now, five months from now, 12 months from now?
Really allow yourself to do that and dream and step outside of the box that you’re in outside of your current experiences.
And let yourself imagine who you could potentially become and what you could do with your life and for your family if you allow yourself to do so.
Living Abundantly Ever After can take place after any type of pain or trauma.
What are pain and trauma?
It could be heartache, it could be losing a job. It could be not really giving yourself the the care and love and attention that you need. It could be after getting out of a relationship. It doesn’t have to be a bad relationship. It could have been a healthy one, or maybe in fact it was toxic. Or maybe it was abusive.
So there are a million and one different ways of looking at what that means. So it’s all about you getting to reshape who you are getting to decide who you want to have in your life, what experiences you want, who you want to be.
All of these amazing things.
It’s really giving you back a sense of power, a sense of control, a sense of creation around your own life.
Many times we can feel like we don’t have any control over our lives that we are subjected to the bullshit that we knew from growing up. From our experiences as adults and it just gets to be a mess where you think ‘okay, well this is just who I am, this is just what my life is’ and absolutely no it does not have to be that way.
No matter what you have experienced, whether it was something major like loss of a loved one, some people have to learn how to navigate life again after they lose a family member or a life partner. Some people may have to learn how to come out of their shell and reclaim their identity after something as traumatic as sexual assault.
There’s an abundance of things that can either propel you into needing to rebirth yourself, or that can force you into getting to a state where you absolutely need to change, and a lot of times we get to the pressure point, right?
The pressure point is what I like to call being between the rock and the hard place.
I’m pretty sure you heard that. And in between there is what I like to call the space of potential. So while you are in between that rock and whatever hard situation you are dealing with, there’s a sliver of space that is potential.
And if you’re able to harness that energy, harness that potential, you have the power to do amazing things.
You have the power to get out from up under the rock and the hard place and you can move into a place that is more comfortable that is more supportive of you. So we’ll talk more about that later and again, it kind of circles back, right?
Once you know that you’re in a shitty situation, whatever it may be, something that is making you unhappy. Something that’s making you feel stressed out or just making you feel down. You have to come to a place where you start to figure out well what is it that I want.
Because this is not making me happy, this is draining me.
I don’t feel like love.I don’t feel supported.
I’m not happy.
I feel stuck.
I feel stagnant.
All of these different things, but you know it’s just not beneficial for you. It does not make you feel good.